Quick Exit

(You can substitute “partner” with any relevant person in your life, such as a family member or close relation.)

Please answer Yes or No to each question:

1. Do you ever feel uncomfortable, nervous, or afraid around your partner?
2. Does your partner frequently check up on you or insist on knowing where you are at all times?
3. Has your partner ever demanded access to your phone, messages, emails, or social media without your consent?
4. Does your partner often lose their temper or react in unpredictable ways that make you feel anxious?
5. Do you feel afraid to disagree with your partner or share your honest opinions?
6. Has your partner ever insulted, belittled, or criticised you in private or in front of others?
7. Does your partner control your access to money or decide how you spend it?
8. Is your partner frequently jealous or accuses you of being unfaithful without any reason?
9. Have you stopped seeing family or friends because your partner discouraged or prevented it?
10. Does your partner prevent you from practising your spiritual or cultural beliefs?
11. Does your partner blame you for their bad moods or mistakes?
12. Does your partner make you question your memory or perception of events (gaslighting)?
13. When upset, does your partner use threats or intimidation to get their way?
14. Has your partner ever monitored your phone, computer, or online activity without your knowledge?
15. Does your partner isolate you from people who support you, such as family, friends, or community?
16. Does your partner pressure you to behave, dress, or live according to their beliefs or values?
17. Has your partner ever pressured or coerced you into sexual activity when you did not want to or were unable to freely consent?
18. Do you feel like you cannot make decisions without your partner’s approval?

Your Results

If you answered “Yes” to any of the quiz questions, it may mean you are experiencing controlling or coercive behaviours — key indicators of family and domestic violence. These behaviours can significantly impact your emotional well-being, independence, and sense of safety, even in the absence of physical violence.

It’s important to remember:

  • Your feelings and experiences are valid.
  • You deserve to feel safe, respected, and supported in your relationships.
  • Recognising these signs is a courageous and important first step.

Where to Get Help

You don’t have to face this alone. Support is available if you want to talk confidentially, seek advice, or find services in your area.

For more information, resources, and guidance on how to seek safety and access support for family and domestic violence, please visit:

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