Quick Exit

Abusive relationships are not always easy to identify because the abuse is not always physical. All partners, family members and others in close relationships disagree or argue from time to time, even within a healthy relationship. It is when disagreements and arguments become a consistent pattern, that it might be an indication of domestic violence and abuse. The following two-minute quiz may help you identify whether you might be in an abusive relationship. Please note the quiz is provided as a guide only and should not replace seeking professional advice.

1. Do you ever feel uncomfortable or afraid around your partner?
2. Does your partner check up on you constantly, or insist on knowing where you are all the time?
3. Has your partner ever insisted on reading your text messages, emails, or social media?
4. Does your partner lose his or her temper often?
5. Are you afraid to disagree with your partner?
6. Has your partner ever put you down or insulted you in front of others?
7. Has your partner ever controlled how much money you have, and/or how you spend it?
8. Does your partner act overly jealous or accuse you of cheating often?
9. Have you stopped seeing friends or family to avoid upsetting your partner?
10. Has your partner ever locked you in the house?
11. Has your partner ever blamed you for the way he or she acts?
12. Has your partner ever made you feel uncertain or made you doubt your memory of events?
13. When your partner is angry, does he or she throw or break things to scare you?
14. Have you ever been frightened that your partner might threaten the safety of you/ your children?
15. Has your partner ever threatened to hurt you or your children?
16. Has your partner ever hurt you or your children?
17. Has your partner ever forced you to have sex with them?

Your Results

If you answered “YES” to any of these questions, you might be in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship.

It’s important to remember:

  • Your feelings and experiences are valid.
  • You deserve to feel safe, respected, and supported in your relationships.
  • Recognising these signs is a courageous and important first step.

Where to Get Help

You don’t have to face this alone. Support is available if you want to talk confidentially, seek advice, or find services in your area.

For more information, resources, and guidance on how to seek safety and access support for family and domestic violence, please visit:

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