What You Might See or Hear

You might be a friend, family member or neighbour of someone that you think may be, or know is, using domestic or family violence.

Things to look out for that may indicate that someone you know may be using family or domestic violence

  • Their partner or family member seems afraid of them, or displays anxiousness around them or acts differently when they are around them
  • They often humiliate, criticise or make fun of their partner or family member to you or when other people are around
  • As a neighbour you may hear shouting and/or threats being made
  • They seem controlling of their partner and are often jealous or have a short temper
  • They seem to be making all the decisions and order their partner or family member about – this could include controlling finances, telling them who they can and cannot see and what they can and cannot do.
  • Their partner or family member has shown signs of anxiety and depression, lost confidence or is unusually quiet and withdrawn
  • Their partner or family member displays signs of unexplained physical injuries (bruises, cuts, broken bones etc.) and gives repetitive, unbelievable or defensive explanations
  • They display behaviours such as breaking objects and punching walls when they are angry
  • They are easily angered or annoyed
  • Their partner or family member often misses work, events or social occasions because they are ‘unwell’
  • They expect their partner to constantly check in with them, or expect them to spend all their time together

If you are noticing these signs, there is a chance the person you know may be using family or domestic violence.

Understanding the different types of domestic violence

Family and domestic violence is a pattern of violence, abuse or intimidation where one person attempts to dominate or control the other. It can occur between romantic partners, previous partners or family members, and can affect anyone. Family and domestic violence is not just physical, and can take many forms including:

All couples and family members have arguments, however, they should never be violent and there is no acceptable reason why one partner should hurt or control another. Family and domestic violence is never okay.

It can be difficult to realise that someone you know is using family or domestic violence.  You can access a range of resources through our website, to assist you in deciding how you may want to help. Be cautious not to put yourself or the person you suspect is being harmed in further danger.

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